Well here's the story: I have just recently concluded that I am bisexual after discovering that I have a pretty serious thing for my best friend who happens to also be a guy. I have no idea which way he swings. I'm worried that if I tell him and he's straight that he'll get creeped out and no longer want to be friends. I have no idea WTF to do. Maybe I'll ask my psyciatrist. FML.
Wow Hmar, I had no idea you flirted with the idea of wearing comfortable shoes. No but seriously, as a straight man who's never been in that situation, I can't really give you advice. All I can say is, don't do anything that might ruin a good friendship. Wait it out, and if you feel the time is right, then maybe you can express your feelings to this friend of yours.
That's a muddled situation. It's pretty much the same for a guy with a girl: You want to know if your best friend (a girl) wants to go out with you, but if she doesn't she might not want to be friends. Kind of the same I guess. I have no idea what to do
lol, comfortable shoes From what I know of this guy he'd be fairly acceptive, or at least, wouldn't punch me in the face and storm off in disgust if I told him I just don't know what would happen to our friendship, but it's really bugging me and starting to distract me from my work. Also, interesting fact: You are the first person to know! Congratulations!
Yes! You win the consolation prize! A virtual cheezburger! I'll e-mail it to you as soon as I have time (And no, I am not insinuating that you are a troll)
Haha Anyway, I'm sorry about not being able to advise you to do anything? It's pretty much similar to a hetrosexual guy's position.
Hmm... well... Jeez. I wasn't expecting something this heavy when I looked at this topic. *sigh* Your emotions might have the best of you, most bisexuals eventually find out they only like one sex or the other and are mistaken when they think they are indeed bisexual. My advice to you would be... to really find out which sex you are interested in. I think there is a time in peoples lives when they question things about themselves, and I'm sure there are a lot of people that at one time or another questioned their sexuality. You might be mistaking a friendship-sort-of-love with a sexual-sort-of-love, but if you truly do like this other man, then the best thing to do is to take it slow. Time will tell what the other man thinks of you.
That's not really true, Twiddle. In some people bisexuality is a transitionary or experimental phase, but other people truly are attracted to people from different genders, just often for different reasons and in different ways. Anyways, I'd definitely advise keeping it quiet for a little while and observing him. Maybe start watching some movies together that might allow you to gauge his reaction towards the whole subject (but not while cuddling up close or anything like that! ). By the way, what's your general age range? Don't need to give anything exact, but depending on how old the two of you are it can make a huge difference in how you should approach this.
Mmm... As much as I can see where you're coming from, I am adamant about what I have said, I have thought about it for a while.
While it differs from person to person, I think it hits a guy harder than a girl if your male best friend professed his feelings for you. I have many homosexual friends, and from what I know they stay away from straights so proper friendship can be maintained. My boyfriend did freak out once, when his friend placed his hand on his lap in the car and hinted his feelings (so many 'his', I hope I make sense). He stopped seeing his friend because he was young and didn't know how to face him later. So if you value the friendship, try to be a little tactful, have more patience and who knows, your feelings may be answered.
This reminds me of something I saw on grouphug once. Not helpful at all, but be careful. If he's really your best friend but doesn't swing that way, he shouldn't look at you any differently. If it were me though I'd keep quiet and wait for it to pass, but then again I'm a big chicken
I would just suck it up and get over it. If you tell him and he doesn't feel the same way it most likely will create an awkward situation between the both of you.
One thing- There are a load of homophobic jerks in middle school, and if this becomes public your life could become a living hell.
Hell yeah. I would wait it out and do some friend activities, like someone else said, watch a movie, play video games or whatever. I have NOTHING against bi/homosexual people but some people do.
